Looking and feeling fabulous over 40
I see it all the time: people telling me they’re “too old” for this or “too old” for that.
If this sounds like you and you think you’re too old to achieve your lifelong dreams or even wear high heels, listen up: YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD.
Why did I choose the number 40 for this blog? Because I am now over 40—and I’m talking about my own experience to help others feel fabulous.
For me, the number 40 is just a number. I can now say I don’t mind it at all; I still feel like I am in my 20s. I’m still the same girl: silly, innocent at times, playful, happy, I love to laugh, to have fun, to sing (even though I unfortunately don’t have that talent), and to dance!
The only difference is that now at 45, I have so much more confidence and guts—and I don’t let the negativity get to me.
I also am able to admit I have my flaws and that not everybody will like me. In fact, I know not everybody will like me, and that is okay. I have no power over who likes me or not (and neither do you!).
So what does this blog have to do with fashion, style, accessories and La Glamour Style? Everything!
Being in your 40s is a way of life: it starts with YOU and how you feel. If you put on makeup and accessories and high heels but you’re lacking confidence or self-love, then you’re missing a piece of the “feeling fabulous” package.
So here’s my theory on that fabulous/glamorous/confident feeling…
It’s all about mindset—and one we have to change.
We think it’s “bad” to grow old. But think about it: it’s a privilege to be able to enjoy life and to finally accept who we are! We are all unique and that is what makes this world so interesting. After all, wouldn’t it be boring if we were all the same?
I can literally say that at age 45, I am finally content with my surroundings—and I love life. I feel fabulous and I’ve learned to love myself for who I really am really!
It took some time, but I can say I have learned to accept my wrinkles and the fact that gravity is taking over some parts of my body. But I am healthy and more active than ever—plus, there are things we just can’t change (even if you cry over wrinkles, they won’t go away!). The insecurities are still there but we have to learn to accept it and move forward.
It’s so important to take care of ourselves, to take control of our minds and give ourselves permission to be happy, to get pampered, to look our best, to feel love for ourselves, to take all the compliments in—heck, give yourself a compliment everyday!
Meanwhile, don’t forget that it is also okay to not be perfect. Accept all of it.
Life’s challenges and ups and down have brought me to where I am today, and I am so grateful for everything. It’s important to have balance in your life and to stay true to who you are, no matter what other people think of you. Don’t let anyone put you down.
Stay true to you
Here’s a little story that happened to me a couple of years back…
I was on one of the most chic and beautiful cruise ships with my husband. It was a real dream come true and I was having a blast. There was a band playing “I Will Survive” and a small dance floor on the pool deck. I danced by myself, just enjoying it and taking it all in…when the lead singer put the microphone next to me so I could sing the chorus!
Knowing very well I cannot sing (even though I try so hard), I laughed as I sang. My husband thought it was amazingly funny. But when I left the dance floor, a lady came up to me and very rudely said “If you can’t sing, don’t sing.”
I was shocked. I couldn’t even open my mouth to say anything. But in that instant, I decided she was not going to ruin my night. And anyway, I know for a fact that I don’t have that talent—but I was sad for her because she was clearly not enjoying her night as much I was. So, from then on, I decided that nobody was going to ruin my good vibes/mood.
I feel like I want to stay true to who I am and enjoy every minute of every day; and I am having so much fun that I never thought was possible. I truly hope more women will be inspired to do the same.
Age is just a number
So what do fashion, age, confidence and health all have to do with each other? It’s about balance and finding whatever makes you feel good and amazing!
Here are a few examples of what I mean by “age is just a number.” These are all amazing people:
- 94-year-old Harriette Thompson became the oldest woman to run a half-marathon in 2015
- 89-year-old Alma Kocialek graduated from York University in 2017
- And look at 80-year-old Chinese runway model Wang Deshun
I just hope that next time you feel like saying “I’m too old,” you’ll think about these amazing people or your own role models and about realize this: that we are all equal, we were all created the same, and what we tell ourselves can change how we think of ourselves.
Change your mindset
If you really want to feel and look amazing, you have to practice being just that. The greatest pianist did not become great overnight: it took practice!
So practice changing your mindset every time you bring yourself down; say something amazing about yourself.
Cheers to being fabulous at any age!!